At Progeny, based in Ballymena, Northern Ireland, we meet young people with extraordinary stories. Stories often marked by pain and courage. Among these stories, self-harm emerges as a complex and sensitive issue affecting many individuals and families across the UK. Whether you're a young person seeking understanding or a parent hoping to support a loved one, this blog explores self-harm, its many forms, and the hope for healing through connection and compassion.
What Is Self-Harm?
Self-harm is the act of intentionally hurting oneself, often as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions or distress. While cutting or burning may be the most recognised forms of self-harm, it also includes:
Restrictive eating or bingeing, (often linked to eating disorders like anorexia or bulimia).
Excessive exercise, used as punishment rather than self-care.
Highly critical self-talk, leading to feelings of deep inadequacy or worthlessness.
Substance misuse or risky behaviours, as a way to escape or numb emotional pain.
Self-harm is not about seeking attention or being "dramatic." It’s a response to deep emotional distress, often rooted in trauma, anxiety, or depression.
Why Do People Self-Harm?
Understanding why someone might self-harm is essential for providing the right support. Common reasons include:
1. Coping with trauma: Past events like bullying, abuse, or grief can lead to intense emotional turmoil. Self-harm may provide a temporary sense of control or relief.
2. Expressing emotions: When emotions like anger, sadness, or frustration become overwhelming, physical harm might seem like an outlet.
3. Overcoming numbness: For some, self-harm is a way to feel something when they feel emotionally disconnected or numb.
4. Self-punishment: Feelings of shame, guilt, or low self-worth can drive people to harm themselves as a way to "punish" themselves.
The Link Between Trauma and Self-Harm
At Progeny, we view self-harm through the lens of trauma. Trauma is not just significant life events like abuse; it can include emotional neglect, bullying, or unmet needs during childhood. Many who self-harm carry a heavy burden of shame—feeling unworthy, unseen, or unloved.
But shame can be transformed. When a young person shares their story and is met with compassion, hope begins to grow. Self-harm is often a response to a painful story, and healing begins when that story is understood and witnessed without judgment.
Support for Self-Harm at Progeny
Based in Ballymena but available across Northern Ireland and the UK, Progeny offers tailored support to help young people and their families navigate the challenges of self-harm and trauma.
Progeny Therapy and Mentoring: Our qualified therapists and mentors provide a safe, confidential space for young people aged 13-25 to process their experiences, understand their feelings, and heal from experiances that have been overwhelming. www.progeny.org.uk/therapymentoring
Progeny Education: We work with young people of secondary school age to heal and rebuild self-worth as they also study for KS3 and GCSE qualifications. www.progeny.org.uk/education
Our spaces are designed to be judgment-free zones where individuals feel valued, heard, and supported. The journey isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about creating a future filled with hope and acceptance.
Signs Someone May Be Self-Harming
If you’re worried about a young person, here are some signs that might indicate self-harm:
Unexplained injuries like cuts, burns, or bruises.
Wearing long sleeves or pants, even in warm weather.
Changes in eating habits or sudden weight fluctuations.
Avoiding social interactions or becoming withdrawn.
Excessive self-criticism or talk of being "worthless."
If you notice these signs, approach the person with empathy and understanding. Avoid judgment and instead focus on listening and supporting them in seeking help.
Self-Harm Isn’t the End of the Story
If you or someone you care about is struggling with self-harm, remember: there is help, and there is hope. At Progeny, we believe that no young person is beyond healing.
Through compassionate therapy, mentoring, and educational support, we help young people transform their relationship with themselves, moving away from self-harm toward acceptance and self-compassion.
Whether you’re in Ballymena, Northern Ireland, or anywhere across the UK, Progeny is here to support you.
How to Reach Us
If you’d like to learn more about how Progeny can help with self-harm, trauma, or mental health, visit www.progeny.org.uk
Let’s work together to rewrite the story—with kindness, connection, and hope.
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